WHEN YOU FEEL LOST AND CONFUSED
By: Gary L. Rodgers
1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
Psalms 34:4 I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.
Psalms 120:1 In my distress I cried unto the LORD, and he heard me.
Hebrews 13:5C for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
WHEN YOU FEEL LOST AND CONFUSED
By: Gary L. Rodgers
Sometimes life can seem to have its many challenges, and it can at times seem so hopeless. I know that growing up as a teenager it can be awfully confusing and sometimes we seem to feel an ache within us that we don’t understand. Sometimes it can cause us to feel depressed and lonely, and because of these feelings we may at times think of all sorts of crazy things. But I want you to know this; we have all gone through some of what you may be feeling right now. It seems like our emotions begin to take over and we feel alienated from our parents and even some of our friends. We don’t know how to explain what’s wrong because we don’t always understand it ourselves. It would be great if everything was just perfect all of the time and we wouldn’t have theses empty and useless feelings inside. Our parents don’t always understand and the sad reality is that when we grow up we will face the same challenges with our teenage children. So often we grownups have a tendency to forget that we were once teenagers and there were times that we wanted to just be left alone to think and figure things out for ourselves. There are some things that you need to remember as you go through these difficulties. First of all your parents love you so very much and when you have these emotional stresses it scares them and they are afraid that you will do something that will hurt you and maybe ruin your life. It’s not that they want to be nagging and always prying into your business. You need to understand that they have spent the best part of your life doing everything for you. Everything from washing your face and hands to picking up after you and tucking you in bed. So don’t be too hard on Mom and Dad it’s just that they love you and along with loving you comes a desire to watch over and protect you from every hurt imaginable that could come your way. In that they stand guilty as charged for being a parent.
GOD’S PARENTAL DESIRE TOWARD YOU
You know; God is the same way towards us. He is a loving father and He doesn’t want to see you hurting physically and emotionally. He knows that there are times in our lives when we need a little space to figure things out for ourselves. And as a loving father He wants the best for us as well. Just like mom and dad He wants to help you and if you speak with Him He will help you to get through these trying times. I remember that when I was a teenager the future seemed so far away and filled with so many uncertainties. Will I have a good job, will I have a nice home and a nice family. How will I afford to have and do all of the things that I want? It bothers me not to have any money that I can call my own. I want a car, I want nice clothes. I want people to like me. Yes there are a lot of uncertainties that we all face. There are some uncertainties that I still face.
STRESSFUL TIMES AND FEARS
Remember reading about the apostles that followed Jesus? Do you know that they too had fears? They were commanded by Christ to go into all of the world and preach the gospel. What trials and hardships would they face? What would happen to their families as they obeyed this commandment? If something happened to them would their families be cared for? Many of them died the life of a martyr and they gladly gave their lives as a sacrifice for the cause of Christ. Do you know that your parents face many things in their future that are just as frightening and disturbing for them as it is for you? They usually don’t share them with you because they don’t want you to live in fear. But they too are concerned that they will always have a good job where they can make enough money to pay for the home that you live in. They have bills that you probably don’t think about; gas for their vehicles to get them back and forth to work and take you to your school and church events. They need money for electric, food, water, and what about internet and cell phone use? And those unexpected costs when the car breaks down or one of the house appliances quit working? All of these things can at times be a burden for them, yet you are not aware of it. We can only stretch a dollar but so much before it tears. Yet they are constantly faced with budgeting their money and their time. Do you maybe have a little idea now why they want you to study hard and get good grades in school? They don’t hound you just because they like to be on your case. Parents have always from the beginning of time wanted their children to have things better than they had for themselves. So be a little considerate when they worry about you. It’s because they love you and want life’s best for you.
So when you are feeling depressed and moody and fearful remember there are those that will help you. You have Sunday school teachers that love you and will help you where they can. You can always talk to your Pastors and youth leaders. Maybe you have an adult friend or relative that you feel comfortable talking to that can help you. But be sure to not leave GOD out of the picture. He can direct you to the right people. And you know what, if you were to talk to your parents privately and even individually you may be surprised to learn that they are ready to do all that they can for you. Parents are not your enemies. They have loved you through every sickness and pain that you have experienced in your life. And they stand ready to help you through the ones that you are facing now.
GROWING UP HAS ITS PROBLEMS
Being a teenager is not easy, you are caught between being a child and being a grown up. One moment you want to be loved and cuddled, and in the next instant you want to be independent and free.
You want to hear something that maybe you never heard before. Being a parent is not easy either. As a parent you are caught between being loved by your children when they are little because they are dependent upon you to being disrespected and dishonored when your children get older because you continue to love them and try to do what you can to protect them. I wonder how many parents cry at night because they feel hopeless and of no use any more. I wonder how many of them cry because of the pain that they feel. They can’t go back to being a child under their parent’s roof. They can’t crawl in bed at night knowing that they still have a place to live, with food on the table and clothes on their back no matter how harsh or cruel they were to their parents. No, they have no place to run. They have to stand there and take the beatings of their jobs and hard work. They have to face the fears of providing a home and making sure that all of the bills has been paid.
CHRIST REALLY IS THE ANSWER
Your parents only have one to turn to and that is Jesus Christ and Him only. He is the one that can get them through every hardship and trial that they face, and He is the one that can help you to get through it also. Maybe you don’t come from a Christian home with parents that have brought you up under the teachings of a good gospel ministry. But no matter who they are they face fears and struggles that are much more intensified by the responsibilities that they bear from being a parent than what you have in being a youth. Many a young person has rebelled against their parents and most of the time it boils down to one thing: independence. I want to be my own boss. I want to do what I want when I want. I want to go wherever I want and live my life the way that I want. Don’t worry, those days are coming and it won’t be long before you are on your own. But I caution you, unless you approach it with the right mindset and attitude you will fail miserably.
THE ENCHANTED YOUNG WOMAN
I know of a young woman who lost her life to drugs, alcohol and a number of other sins of the flesh. If I were to mention her name you would probably recognize who she was.
Let me give you a short scenario of her life. From what little I know of her she grew up in a home where she was surrounded by people who loved her, and took her to church, and did their best to get her saved and under the protective hands of Jesus Christ. I believe that she in all likelihood became a born again believer. She sang in her church choir and she had a majestic voice that held people spelled bound to every note and whisper of every tune that came out of her month. She was a beautiful girl with a bright future ahead of her. At some point her talents were recognized and she became one of the most sought after singers in the world. Fame and fortune came quickly for her and she rose to stardom in a hurry with all of the glitter and glamour that she could hope for. She got caught up in sins of the flesh. In and out of clinics that tried to help her with her drug and alcohol problem. There seemed to be no rest for her soul. She kept going back to her life of sin and drugs until they found her dead because of it. You may be asking yourself where was GOD in all of this. Why didn’t He stop her? Why didn’t He make her quit? Why didn’t He give her another chance? Why? Why? Why?
WHERE WAS GOD
Let me ask you a question. What makes you so sure that GOD didn’t try to get her to stop? What makes you so sure that He wasn’t there the whole time? What makes you so sure that He didn’t give her another chance over and over again?
I would like to bring your attention to a few passages of scripture that may open your eyes to some truths in my closing remarks. In Hebrews 13:5 we are told that “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” I believe that God was there the whole time with this young woman in the person of the Holy Spirit pleading and begging with her to turn her life around before she would destroy herself! I believe that He made every effort to get her to stop, but she had a will of her own. She wanted to lead her own life in her own way and it ended with a lot of sadness for everyone that knew her and loved her.
When we get saved our body becomes the temple of the Holy Spirit and in 1 Corinthians 3:17 we are told that if any man defile the temple of GOD him shall GOD destroy; for the temple of GOD is holy, which temple ye are. Sin has a definite price; death!
In 2 Samuel 14 & 15 we read the story of Absalom, one of the sons of David the King. Absalom rebelled against his father and tried to take the kingdom away from him. The bible tells us in 2 Samuel 18:9 and the succeeding verses that Absalom was riding his mule under an oak tree and his long hair got tangled in a low hanging branch and he was pulled from his mule. In the verses to follow you find that he was killed while hanging from that tree branch. His father the King wept bitterly over the death of his son.
In prior chapters you find that King David pleaded that none would kill his son should they be given the opportunity to do so. Don’t you suppose that King David out of great fear for his son Absalom that he went to bed at nights weeping over his son’s hatred toward him and that he was fearful for his son’s life? Don’t you think that maybe mom and dad go to bed fearful and weeping for you?
To sum all of this up I would like for you to read the story in 1 Corinthians 5:1-5 about a man in the Corinthian church who committed fornication with one of his father’s wives. I want you to pay very close attention to what it says in verses four and five.
1 Corinthians 5:4 In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ,
5 To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.
There are people who say if a person gets saved they are always saved and can never lose their salvation; that gives them a license to sin. What they are really saying is that the security of the believer means they can do whatever they want and get away with it. That is one of the biggest lies that ever evolved from the pit of hell. They need to study these verses that I have just given you and they need to read the conclusion to the story of this famous young woman. All of us need to beware of how we walk after we get saved.
As I said before, I believe that this young woman was saved and I believe that today she is safe and secure in Christ. If you want to live a long life, then don’t let sin become your master. This young woman as a girl was saved, and many people who knew her were a witness to that fact. Later she became a famous star and people admired her for who she was. But there was a serious problem developing in the back ground of her career that she was not looking at. Young people and adults that knew her testimony was beginning to think that if she could get away with her sin then – why – couldn’t – they?
I believe that the Holy Spirit tried through conviction to get her to stop and turn her life around. I believe that she was given many opportunities to do so but she chose not to. I caution everyone that is living in a life of sin to stop while you have a chance and correct it. Willful sin is rebellion and you will pay a price for it. Just like this woman; I believe that GOD finally came to a point where He said this is the final straw. I’m telling you to stop and turn your life around, now! You are placing a mindset with people that they too can get away with sin and I WILL NOT ALLOW IT TO GO ON ANY FURTHER! I believe that this young woman refused to give up her lifestyle and GOD gave her flesh over to Satan to be destroyed but that the spirit may be saved.
When we walk in the ways of the LORD we are given length of days. What do you suppose happens when we rebel against the clear teachings of scripture? Brothers and sisters in the LORD; how many times has the Holy Spirit of GOD convicted you and tried to get you to stop and turn your life around? How many people have their eyes on you and know the testimony of your salvation, and because you refuse to make it right they feel that they can get away with sin also? I caution you! You are walking on thin ice in the middle of a hot summer. This could be the final warning that GOD has for you!
Young people listen to the instruction of your father, Proverbs 4:1-2 that it may go well with thee and you shall have length of days, and long life. Proverbs 3:2
You may not have ever known what it was like to be assured of a Heavenly home. You may never have known that you could have a personal relationship with the GOD of eternity who sent His Son to die in your place, paying the full penalty for your sins.
I invite you to accept the opportunity of a lifetime. Here you have the chance to be somebody, here you have the chance to be the child of the King. Here you have the chance to be able to learn about the GOD of Heaven where He will give you the power and strength to go against Satan and the powers of hell to fight for the very eternal existence of your family and friends. Here you have the opportunity to become a true champion of the cross for Christ. You can go up against that old dragon and pull down strongholds for the glory of GOD. You may be the very person to lead your family and friends to the foot of the cross where Jesus can save their souls and deliver them from the fiery depths of hell.
If you’re willing to take that step as an independent individual then I invite you to follow these words in prayer. Simply bow your head before GOD and repeat these words in faith believing.
Dear LORD! I know what sin is and I acknowledge that I am a sinner. I believe that you died on the cross and shed your blood for me as the complete and final payment for all of my sins. I put my complete faith and trust in you alone to get me to Heaven. Please wash away all of my sins with your blood. Please come into my heart to be my LORD and Savior, saving me from the horrors of hell. I invite the Holy Spirit into my heart to teach me and train me in the ways of righteousness. In the name of your son Jesus Christ I pray this prayer. Amen!
Romans 10:13 tells us that whosoever calls upon the name of the LORD shall be saved. And in 1 John 5:13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
So if you called upon the name of the LORD then you are saved, right? And if you are saved then according to (1 John 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.) your sins have all been washed away and you have been given the gift of eternal life.
If you made a decision to pray and ask Christ to forgive you, and to wash away all of your sin with His blood, and to come into your heart to be your Savior, then we praise God for you.
You should write down the:
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Record this information in your Bible as a record of that decision. It is part of your testimony.
Please contact us through Myerstown Baptist Church, 59 N. Ramona Road, Myerstown PA. 17067 to let us know that you have made a decision for Christ so that we can pray for you and rejoice with you. We would like to send you some information to help you get started in your Christian walk.
Thank you, and may the Lord richly bless you!
A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR
Our desire and purpose is to win as many souls as we can for the cause of Christ, and to help brothers and sisters in the LORD to press forward in their Christian walk.
If you are newly saved we are so happy for you and wish to help you get started and set goals to help you progress in your Christian walk. If you are a struggling Christian looking for direction, it is our hope to help you get on a path with Christ that will help you to find the strength and encouragement that you need.
Please give us your name, date of salvation, time and place. As mentioned above you should also record this in your bible.
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May you have a peaceful day in Christ!
Brother Gary L. Rodgers